Parent Post 1: In response to parents having so much control over getting rid of teachers, events and so forth.  I would have to disagree with you on that.  If that were the case, we would not have lost some good teachers already.  Administration does not listen to the parents when it comes to these issues.  Because if they had Coach Draper would still be with us.  Coach Howie would not be going through what he has had to go through for the last month.  This is just a few of the examples of how parents don't get what they want.  It's too bad that we as parents don't have more control of what goes on in DC.  If we did we would get rid of our so called "wonderful administration".

As far as parents of what you call "perfect kids".  No, children, not even the "perfect kids" you refer to are perfect.  Everyone has the potential to act inappropriately.  Mine, yours, neighbors, administration, etc.

However, not all parents may be aware of the behavior their kids display.  Including me, I never said my kids were perfect.  However, I do try to be involved with school events, groups, etc., to make my presence known to my children and their friends as to what is appropriate and what's not.  Not to say that they still may display unpleasant behavior.  But, if I am there I can put a stop to behavior that is not pleasing or appropriate to me.  That is why parents should be concerned at what goes on at school events. If they know they might get more involved were their kids are concerned.  As I said before, I do not claim to have perfect children.

As to parents complaining about school events, I was only bringing attention to something that so many complained about but did nothing to change it.  You can choose to take it or leave it at that.  That is all I was trying to accomplish - awareness.
 

Parent Post 2: To the parent that said they were not notified about the PSG meeting via e-mail. If you get Mrs. Jones Monday newsletter then you did receive notification. It was in there.  I do believe it was also sent home with the students.  Perhaps your child did not give it to you.
 

Parent Post 3: Awards ceremony?  My child did not receive an award.  We did not know that there was a ceremony or what awards are given?  Shouldn't an awards assembly be in front of their peers?  Shouldn't younger students be able to watch and think to themselves that they would like to be up there next year?  Why wouldn't we promote our awards to all of the students and encourage them all to strive for the best?!?!?
 

Our Reply: To Parent Post 1.  It would seem that you and the last poster agree on parents showing up at events to see how their kids behave.  One thing we would add is to not show up at an event but ask someone who is going to watch how your kids behave and have them report back to you.  Be open to what you might hear because it may not be positive but then again, you may be impressed.  Most kids behave when in the spotlight of their parents’ eyes but a true test is to see how they act when you are not around.  Having been at more events than we can recall, most kids are very well behaved and would make their parents proud.  But there is a handful that, for whatever reasons, chose not to follow society’s socially acceptable rules.

As for the school events themselves we think some are missing the point.  Most people are not against school events they are against having to fund these events.  If the school wants to hold an 8th grade celebration/graduation then albeit, the school should do it.  You don’t have to participate if you choose not to.  We didn’t participate in last year’s graduation because our child chose to attend another non-school event.  Then the school can charge an admission fee to cover the cost of the event.  That way the only people funding the event are the ones who choose to do so.  It is not that complicated.  The people who want the event can participate and the people who don’t won’t.

As for parents controlling the school district the system in place is adequate.  The parents control is through the school board.  Unfortunately the school board has been controlled over the last so many years by a group that is unwilling to hear all sides of every issue.  Who’s to blame for that?  We must accept that responsibility since we are the ones who vote them in.  So if we want to see change we must vote in a board that is balanced and is willing to hear every person’s opinion in an open forum.  Once they hear all sides then it is up to them to make the best decision for the district.  Hopefully that decision will be based on all of the facts and not the agendas of a few individuals.  Once personal biased is removed, the district can then function cohesively and productively.

To Parent Post 3.  The awards ceremony is a two part ceremony (unless something has changed).  The first part is by the Deer Creek Schools Foundation and the second part is by the School.  Since the Foundation is not part of the school they can do as they choose.  As for the school we can see it both ways.  Yes it is great to see what awards that can be achieved but it is also demoralizing to see awards that you know can’t be achieved.  So is there any right answer?  We don’t know if there is but the least that can be done is to have all of the awards posted somewhere so everyone is aware of them.

Parent Post 1: I just thought it funny that we never received the email regarding the meeting on 8th grade graduation.  Had we, we would have attended.  We are not alone.  After talking with several people, they had never received the emails. Yes, the computer is a great thing, but when it comes to important things, maybe a letter or a website would have been a better way.  Our PSG for our older child has a website with all the info. 

It upsets me to see how much control our parents have over getting rid of teachers, events, so forth.  Also, for these parents complaining about what goes on at school events, take a closer look at your own child.  I have seen many of these perfect kids joining in on these activities and doing things that would shock mom and dad.  The problem is that these parents are not actually around.  Open your eyes and take a good look at your own child.  You would truly be amazed at what they are actually doing!
 

Parent Post 2: As a parent with a child who is aiming for the 7 year award.....I am completely offended by your comment about the way the kids dressed.  Our child came from practice on the way to a game and did they best they could to work in what he felt like would be a dishonor to not show up and receive the award.  Instead of being so judgmental - how about discussing teaching children respect and appreciation - and not for the latest in fashion!  Our son made it important - despite the awards ceremony being on our church night (which affected the entire family mind you) - and we went. 

While we realize not everyone believes as we do, nor does every church have youth on Wed; we felt it very inappropriate to affect so many students rather than choosing a sporting event night.  But, I didn't write it to complain about a trivial point - like dress code.  I wrote in to thank those students and families who rushed from work to make it and appreciated the award enough to show up to accept it.  As difficult as it was - with our child in Sunday dress as we know it at our church - nice (non-holey) jeans and a collared shirt - We were proud he chose to accept his much deserved award over his sporting event - as did several of his friends.

Parent Post: I got behind in my reading of the Post again and, boy oh boy, was there a lot to read!  I'm curious as much as I am confused about the whole 8th grade graduation hoop-dee-doo.  We already had one go through it -- it did in fact seem to be much adoo about not much at all and he didn't enjoy it all that much -- and we'll have another one facing the prospect next year.

Has there been any discussion about making it "optional"?  About letting the parents make, for lack of a better word, a "reservation" for their student(s) to participate?  It's obvious, to me anyway, that parents and students who had little or not interest would not be compelled to participate and spend money, regardless of the amount, that they just plain don't want to spend.  The cost, if any, could then be divided equally among the participating families who, by virtue of their participation alone, would be expressing a genuine interest in what the parents and children of those families really want to do.

As an aside, having attended the 6th/7th/8th grade graduation the other evening -- and I thought a nice job was done by all -- short, sweet, to the point -- WHO DRESSED THOSE KIDS?!?!?!?  I know for sure there was an email from the administration about what to wear; but "back in the day", how one dressed for an occasion was somewhat of a show of respect -- or lack thereof -- for the occasion and its meaning.  I was flabbergasted when I saw some of those students cross the stage -- sloppy and unkempt, not wearing anything even remotely close to what was suggested -- while others, especially the young ladies, were in my opinion dressed for a ceremonial occasion -- a celebration, if you will; bravo to those students and parents!  And before anyone flies off the handle in response, most of the un-dressed were kids I recognized and we are not talking about a financial issue here!  We personally had a bit of a tussle in our household while dressing to go; but score 1 again for the adults.  No ratty shorts, no worn-out T shirt, no beat up sneakers on our student like we saw on so many others.

"Back in the day", for example, student athletes -- the boys, I mean -- wore a shirt and tie and sometimes a jacket or blazer on game day.  It was respectful, it was required, and it was just plain nice.  I'm thinking about lobbying for that next year.  If I have any degree of success, I think I'll lobby for awards ceremonies, too.

And, by the way, congratulations to all the recipients and their families.  Well done!

Parent Post 1: And then there is the latest: Mrs. Jones wants our same PSG (who voted not to waste money on ceremonial activity for the 8th grade graduation) to pay for a balloon trellis for the 8th graders to walk through as they cross "the bridge". Are you serious?

The same group who didn't want to host an event??? Why would we spend hundreds of dollars on something that will more than likely blow away on the football field? When is Toni Jones going to get it?! This is becoming a slap in the face! Try listening:  THE ANSWER IS NO!

The scary point in this is that we try to teach our teenagers to listen, to not try to finagle things around to work for them and simply listen - yet their own principal is doing the very same thing! Whether you try to get in t-shirt or balloon form - we voted not to have a ceremony! There is no GRADUATION from 8th grade!

It is one more notch on the belt of education.  Have your awards ceremony - that is for the kids and about the kids.  Present the awards the kids earned - that is in honor of them! However, a ceremony is about some adults showing off their decorating and organizational skills.

Ask the kids - I have - and a wide variety of them - they are embarrassed to walk across the bridge and stand out all the more as the new "freshman".  At their age - the Lock In sounds like more fun.  Anyone heard of Mrs. Jones needing to stick to the Elementary level?  If it isn't the lack of discipline (because a good talking to fixes everything), allowing no one to try and fail (we all deserve everything we want) and the elementary thought process of someone too old in their thinking to be "cool" in the minds of the kids she is supposedly representing; then it is apparently a problem with not getting her way.  Sounds to me like another example of her "control" issues.

And with a 4.0 PLUS student - I can assure you it is because that same student is goal oriented and awards driven.  Despite what Mrs. Jones might think; that doesn't mean my student wants a ceremony … yet she is still trying to spend our money. 

What is up with this administration/Board allowing the staff to act like that? At my job; if I were defiant in my actions by continuing to work things to be the way I wanted; rather than what the "team" voted on......I would be fired. But, this is Deer Creek - and look at the mess we are in now!
  

Parent Post 2: I am not sure why people are making an issue about the 8th grade t-shirts.  I was under the impression that almost all grades had a class t-shirt.   I could be wrong.  However, the t-shirt idea was for the graduation.  It was about the kids having a class t-shirt.  The suggestion of wearing it to the alternative graduation celebration was just an idea thrown out there by Mrs. Jones.  I see no harm in that.

If you still take issue with the t-shirt read below on the original PSG notification about the meeting.  It is stated in there about the t-shirt.

I also attended the meeting and voted not to have a formal graduation. It's not necessary.  Recognition of finishing 8th grade and going into the High School - Yes.  Having a formal 8th grade graduation - NO. In my opinion, and several others that attended the PSG meeting, will ultimately take away from the ONE graduation that matters SENIOR GRADUATION.

Let's talk about something that does matter. Like all of the kids that received Enrichment Foundation awards last night.  Congratulations to each and every one of you.  Keep up the good job. We are proud of you and your achievements, and you should be too.  Well done scholars.
 

Our Reply: To Parent Post 2 we have no objections to there being a class t-shirt that students can purchase if they so desire.  We have an issue with the school suggesting that they should be worn at a school event.  By doing this the school is implying that every kid needs to buy one in order to participate in the event.  That is the problem.  The school district should not be associating the t-shirt with their event.  There are times when that is necessary but this is not one of them.

We agree with you that our focus should be acknowledging the kids for their success and hard work.  Unfortunately if we don’t discuss these other issues the school district would continue to operate unchecked and we know what happens when that occurs.

DCS Post: I am not thrilled with the idea of any kind of formal graduation from the 8th grade.  However, I think that Toni may have found a middle ground to take us towards not having a graduation.  I sure like buying a $5.00 t-shirt better than having kids dress up and wear some kind of graduation attire.  The t-shirt is great for memories and much cheaper than a jacket & tie or dress for growing kids.  Our church is not even dressy anymore. 

There were many parents that were not happy with the cancellation of the graduation.  Personally, I don't get it.  Let's have a coke float and say -"great job, you are just about half way finished.  Keep up the good work for 4 more years in high school and 4 more in college!"
 

Parent Post 2: To the parents that are upset by the PSG 2012 voting to not pay for a graduation ceremony:

I am writing this letter and listing below the original email sent out by Toni Jones inviting ALL PARENTS OF 8TH GRADERS TO ATTEND AND STATING THE FACT THAT ALL END OF YEAR ACTIVITIES - INCLUDING GRADUATION WERE TO BE DISCUSSED.  Everyone was notified!

Not only did I attend this meeting, and vote; I also have attended other meetings and actively participated with the fundraising efforts by our PSG officers.

First and foremost let me remind you: these parents are volunteering their time and energy for all of our kids.  NONE of us stepped up to the plate to get our class organized.  I find it an absolute embarassment to send out negative emails/comments instead of addressing the situation as an adult and with respect to the three women, whom I call friends; that have donated their time and energy to organizing our PSG.

 We were all invited to the meeting. (see Toni's email as a reminder below).  It was held on January 30th.  Two and a half months later is entirely too late to complain about a decision you had every right to vote on.  If you could not attend; you could have emailed or called to find out about the meeting.  A couple of people had acted responsibly and done just that.

If you are not involved; you probably didn't know it was unanimously voted to not host the graduation ceremony.  Toni Jones was told during the meeting that we had voted that way.  We called her on her cell phone.  One parent, after the first vote and more discussion, decided to change her vote.  There were approximately 30 people in attendance.  We discussed this matter for nearly an hour with many people giving strong points both for and against hosting.  The class behind us was just organized this school year.  They do not have the funds to pay for the customary rental of our building.  They were willing; but it would deplete their funds dramatically.  We have a VERY LOW base of parents who pay their dues.  Without naming names - that includes some of you sending out emails.  If you are not a part of the PSG by paying dues, volunteering with activities, nor attending the meeting; should you even make a comment?

I feel strongly that anyone who is not volunteering to take on the responsibilities that these 3 women have done for our class for the past 3 years; should either keep their opinions to themselves or volunteer to take on the role.

I do not agree with all that has been decided.  I wanted different times for the Lock-In for example.  But, I lost in the vote.  Every decision has been openly discussed and voted on.  This is not a clique' nor a one-sided leadership.  There were a wide variety of parents at the meeting; some of whom I had never met and some that were new this school year.  If those of you who disagree with the decision made weren't in attendance; you have to live with what the representation voted.  Or if you chose to ask for another meeting about it; you shouldn't wait until it is too late to do anything different.  The PSG 2013 has not had time to raise more money to pay for the site.  We have not reserved a place.  Nothing has been done at all; because two and a half months ago we fairly voted to not HOST the graduation.

To be honest, Toni Jones told us that the school knew it would come to this because we have grown too big.

It was a luxury - an extra if you will - to have a graduation ceremony off site paid for by the PSG group.  All that the PSG groups do is voluntary and "extra".  WE DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING AT ALL!  We voted not to HOST the graduation ceremony.  The school could host the graduation ceremony.  They have done so by planning graduation themselves.  Toni Jones was given plenty of notice to plan something different.  As always, she has come through with a very nice replacement ceremony.  There is no way to make everyone happy.  But, in all fairness; if you wanted your opinion to be represented in the vote - you should have attended the meeting. 

Again, I am so sad that people are sending out emails to hurt others.  These women are very generous of their time.  They have spent countless hours and personal money to organize things so ALL OF OUR CHILDREN will have a great time at the PSG sponsored celebration of their graduation at the 8th grade Lock In and still have enough money to host a Prom they will be proud of!  If you wish to donate some money so we can afford to host an 8th grade graduation; maybe we could have a meeting to vote again.  With such a low amount of contributors donating each year through their dues; we don't have parents who support the class enough to fund everything.  Finally, there were many interesting points about taking away from the real honor of graduation: their high school graduation.  Most of us in attendance agreed that graduating from 8th grade is expected in our homes; and not necessarily any more of a celebration than any other event that our children succeed in doing. 

Please, let's stop hurting people's feelings.

My favorite saying:  "There is a war going on - surely there is more important things in life".  Not one of these women would ever intentionally upset any one of the parents and especially the kids.  They were fair, they weren't even the ones who brought up the idea of not hosting the outsided ceremony, and the President did not vote in case she had to be the deciding vote. 

Let your opinion be made on our next activity.  You have every right to your own opinions.   But, the way it is being handled now hurts people.  I assume since you are wanting to be involved in the decision making - you will attend, volunteer and pay your dues - that kind of contribution helps all of the kids.  I look forward to seeing you there!

For the kids:  PSG 2012!!
Mindi Blanchard
 

Our Reply: To Parent Post 1: Yes I am totally with you. Toni has come up with a wonderful solution. I am all for an 8th transitional event.  Her idea was a stroke of genius.

What I have issue with is once again being asked for more money.  The $5.00 figure was not a fact. The figure came from dividing the off campus hall rental fee by the rounded off number of students in the 8th grade class or $1000/200=$5. What do you think the shirt will cost? I'm sure it will be more than $5.00.

Parents of the class voted against paying for the hall. Why ask them to spend money that is more than likely equivalent to the cost of a t-shirt that in all likelihood the child will never wear again?  Here is a novel idea. Let's hold an event and a good event at that, that doesn't require a "donation".

To Parent Post 2: We totally agree with you.  To criticize the any individuals who are volunteering their time is ludicrous.  If you don’t like the decision then come and vote.  If your not going to vote, then live with the results.  And if it really bothers you that much pony up the money and pay for the event on your own.

DCS Post: The Middle School Graduation has been scheduled for May 13 and will be held on the High School Football Field.

While this is a good replacement of the off-campus Middle School Graduation, it does have some drawbacks. Toni Jones, in her infinite wisdom, is "asking" that parents buy school t-shirts for the ceremony.

The parents voted against paying the $1000 or so cost for having an off campus cermony. With that in mind, even at $5 for a t-shirt (it's been a long time since I've spent that for any shirt), we could have paid for the off-campus ceremony.

Did Toni not get that we've already vetoed the expense? Why can't we have a school event without being asked for money?

Rumor has it that Toni was not pleased with the parents saying they would not pay for the off campus event. If that is the case is this another example of what happens when you don't agree with her? She can't fire us like teachers but she can continue to suck our pockets dry. Okay, yes that is extreme but sometimes this all just drives me nuts.

As an aside, some kids are already moaning about the fact that the event will be held outside.

Parent Post 1: In response: I find it very sad that you try something and find it "cliqueish" when no one attends either the PTO meeting at DCMS or the PSG group meetings.

Ask Toni - many a meeting has been changed (more than half) just to accommodate people to get them to attend.  IT IS EMBARASSING HOW FEW (LESS THAN 5 A MEETING AND THE HIGH SCHOOL IS NOT ANY BETTER - SOMETIMES IT IS THE PRINCIPAL AND THE ELECTED OFFICERS) If you don\'t want a clique - run for an office and invite your group of friends - both schools have struggled to find new people to fill those roles for next year.

Don't be one of those who likes to gripe and doesn't do anything to help!

Parent Post 2: Doing away with 8th grade graduation was the right decision. Having 2 kids to previously go through it, I can tell you, and so would they, that it\'s much ado about nothing. To the young person who feels like it's the one great memory they would take with them, I would say, think again...you\'d most likely be really disappointed!

About the dances, I hate to think of them being done away with as it has been fun for the kids and such a great way for the PSG\'s to raise money. However, I have continually heard of inappropriate things happening that make me think maybe the time has come to rethink how things are done.

We continue to experience growing pains and it will take patience and understanding from everyone to get through it.

Parent Post: I was at a few meetings last year when this idea of forgoing 8th grade graduation was discussed.  I think it is a good idea to do away with it and focus on the REAL graduations, from high school and (hopefully) college.   

As far as getting involved, I must share my experience.  I am very involved at the elementary level but found the middle school PTO and PSG group to be very clique-ish.  I stopped attending because it seemed that I was not really wanted or needed.   I truly felt like I was just taking up space.  Just my experience and some food for thought...

Parent Post: There is no way to make everyone happy. I am so sorry for you that you think the only memory you will have from your middle school years is your graduation.  That is one event in 3 years that I hope were wonderful for you. 

Sometimes business decisions are not the popular ones.  The 8th grade graduation was to cost the 7th grade class (they are expected to pay) over $1000 for their part and over $1000 for our class' part.  Because our PSG group did not start until you all were entering 6th grade; we do not have very much money.  I cannot speak for the 7th grade class about their finances.  I do know from the many discussions with them about this; they were very relieved to not have to pay for it.  Before making a change like this; we discussed it with older students parents both at our meeting and outside of it.  Just as our vote showed (only one vote to keep it compared to approximately 20 to not have it); those older parents said it takes away from the REAL graduation. 

Our schools tend to have a Kindergarten, 5th grade, and 8th grade graduation before you actually graduate.  We felt this makes it a "holiday" of sorts - it isn't about the quantity -it should be about the quality.  We want your senior graduation to be a very special event - well earned!  Not "just another graduation" and less meaningful. 

While at your age, you don't understand all the economics of our decision or the actual thought of making your Senior Graduation more special; the decision was discussed before the meeting at length and with many good points brought to the table before a vote was cast.  We have very few parents - less than 25 who attended the meeting.  If you want someone to put your opinion in to our decisions; get your parents involved!  We are always looking for more help! 

The same people do everything with no appreciation and only negative comments when we make a decision.  That is why we know it is going to be difficult to make enough money for the Prom.  We need a larger and more involved group -not the same parents all the time.  We could do more - but we cannot afford it physically or financially. 

Being involved with 3 groups in the schools; that is the problem with every one of them. Everyone wants to throw their 2 cents in; not know all the facts; and certainly not help! Just give an opinion.

I hope your middle school years were more than just a graduation. You have so many memories to make - enjoy life while you are young - like the DCSPost said.  Taking away a graduation doesn't alter your childhood - that is a little dramatic!
 

Parent Post 2: In regards to the post's post concerning 8th grade graduation.  Why is there so much emphasis placed on 8th grade graduation?   

You said why not let the kids enjoy the hear and now?  Kids can enjoy the hear and now all they want.  Not having 8th grade graduation will take away from them enjoying the hear and now.  Nor will it take away from the one and only childhood they have. 

If you go back and read my post, I stated I'm sure there will be something put into place to "honor" the kids leaving Middle School.  So your suggestion to have something at the school has already been discussed long before my response to 8th grade graduation.  Again, I will say the graduation that is the most important to these kids is their Senior Graduation.

Honestly, not having 8th grade graduation will have a big, (if any) impact on these kids.  The kids need to focus and look forward to what their SENIOR GRADUATION will mean to them. THIS milestone will have a major impact on their lives not 8th grade graduation.
 

Our Reply: First of all we are in support of not spending thousands of dollars on an 8th grade graduation event.  Thank you to parent post 1 for elaborating on the details. 

Our only point in our original reply is to an eighth grader 4 years are an eternity.  True High School Graduation is more important than Middle School but you could argue that College Graduation is even more important.  Just because we know what lies ahead in life for these kids let’s not downplay the significance of Middle School Graduation in their minds.

No disrespect was intended in our reply.  Sorry if any was taken.

Parent Post: In regards to the student post about 8th grade graduation. You indicate this would be the one and only memory you will take with you to the high school.  I somehow find that hard to believe.  You will have many memories to take with you that do not involve 8th grade graduation.  Yes it is a milestone in your middle school years, but I don't think it should be your main focus.  The One and Only True Graduation you should be interested in is your High School graduation.  THAT is the graduation memory you want to take with you as you depart your school years.  This is the one that REALLY MATTERS.  Not an 8th grade graduation. So don't put so much so much emphasis on an 8th grade graduation.  I'm sure there will be something put into place to "honor" your leaving the Middle School building and going on to the High School.  There are some things in life that need to be kept "special" and graduating from the 12th grade as a senior in High School is one of them. Not and 8th grade graduation.

 
Our Reply: The Middle School Graduation has traditionally been paid for by the PSG of the class leaving Middle School.  This year the cost just to rent a facility for the event would have been close to $1000.  The parents in attendance of the PSG Graduation meeting voted not to pay for the event.  The Middle School is in the process of setting up the event where there is no cost involved.  Principal Jones will let everyone know about the details when they come available.

As for the Dances they have not been cancelled they just need to be relocated.  The Middle School is no longer an option but Principal Jones is working with the sponsoring groups to relocate the dances.  If the dances are cancelled it is because the sponsoring groups chose to cancel them and not the Middle School.  One of the main issues with the dances is the number of chaperones.  We would suggest that the students talk to their parents to get them chaperone to insure that the dances continue.

In reply to the parent post above, while we understand that there will be more important events in these kids lives in the future, why not let them enjoy the here and now? An event held at the school would still give them the memories and a sense of transition. Let the kids have their childhood. It’s the only one they have.  The innocence of youth is a wonderful thing especially when you know the world will beat it out of them soon enough.

Student Post:

I, …, am a 8th grade student at DCMS. I have heard many people say that there will not be an 8th grade graduation. 8th grade students have been looking forward to this moment ever since the first moment they placed foot into the front doors as a 6th grader at DCMS. Do I think its fair, NO! Leaving the middle school as an 8th grader should be remembered as a once and a life time moment. It just wouldn’t be fair to have to leave the last year in middle school without any memories to take on with us to high school. Many students want only have memories to carry with them, but they will also have a good time. Another issue/rumor that I have heard is that, the remaining middle school dances are CANCELED! May I ask a question?? Who is cruel enough to take the fun away from kids who just want to enjoy themselves?
 

Our Reply

We have contacted Principal Jones about these issues to find out the facts behind both situations.  Once she replies we will let you know what she says. You may want to go talk to her directly as well with your concerns.